“My name is Blaine. I like long walks on the beach, cuddling on the couch, and interesting conversation.” Wow, that’s great and all, but how does your credit report look? Dating and money can be tricky business. As women, we don’t want to be perceived as gold diggers. On the other hand, though, we also do not want to begin a relationship with someone that has no respect for money, too much love for money, and no concept of handling money. Here are three ways to spot a potential money issue with your date.
Nice Car, but Terrible Tires
My coach at work once told me that the best way to perceive a money faker is to look at their tires. Let’s say they are driving a flashy BMW, but the tires are as bald as a baby’s butt. What does this tell you? It tells you the person driving the car is more concerned with appearances of being rich rather than actually being financially responsible. Everyone knows when you purchase something, there is a responsibility that comes with maintaining it. If the check engine light is on for a week or more or the tires are bald, beware. This person may be a money faker.
He Boasts about All That He Owns
I once went on a date with a guy and during the entire meal, he talked about every piece of property he owned, the cars he drove, and even his salary. By the end of the date, I was trying to figure out a way to get away. Any time a guy boasts continuously about how much money he has, it reveals that money is the most important thing in his life. Guess where this leaves you? The number 2 position, if you are lucky.
He Dresses for Success in the Very Best
This is a story of a rich man and a poor man. One man dresses in ordinary, every day clothes. He lives in an average house and drives a used car. The second man dresses in the finest suits and shoes. He drives only the newest and best cars. This guy typically lives in the crème de la crème neighborhood and has more room than he needs in his home. Which man is the financially secure man? The answer is the former. Don’t get me wrong. It ‘s fine to dress up now and then. However, men that are financially sound and secure in themselves do not need flashy clothes or houses to prove anything. They maintain an average lifestyle so they can continue saving and investing their money. They spend their time enjoying the simple things in life and prefer someone to love them for who they are rather than what they have. These men are the diamonds in the rough.
Do you have dating stories about money? Do you think these assumptions are accurate? What’s your opinion?