June 20, 2013

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Shop Without Becoming a Shopoholic

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The word “shopaholic” has been distorted, and in some cases even glorified. In many people’s minds it now describes a person who simply likes to shop rather than a person with a serious problem. In fact, with scenes like this, from the movie “Confessions of a Shopaholic,” where risky spending habits are touched on with humor, it can be easy to forget that unsafe spending habits can land you in a lot of trouble.  So, with a real meaning of “shopaholic” in mind, here are some easy ways you can watch your spending and work towards living a debt-free and guilt-free lifestyle.

  • Need vs. Want – There are in fact some things that we need in life. However, much of what people spend their money on are simply things they want. If you are really trying to pare down your spending then start asking your self this simple question. “Do I NEED this, or do I WANT this?” This is the first part of recognizing how you are spending your money. Once you separate your purchases into needs and wants, you can make better buying decisions by taking care of your needs first and then determining if your wants are worth the cash. [Read more...]

“Spend More Money” Say Economists

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Unless you’ve been living away from all media sources for the last couple of years, you are probably aware that Americans have been in the midst of a Recession. Foreclosure rates have been up, lending has been tighter, and consumer spending has been slow. For the last couple of years “frugal” has been a hip buzzword – everyone wants to be seen as a smart spender with thrifty habits.

A recent article in USA Today, indicates that “More credit card debt might be good for the economy” After all we’ve heard concerning the evils of debt along with stories of people losing their houses and cars or being unemployed for 2 years it comes as a shock! [Read more...]

Good Debt vs. Bad Debt – Understanding the Difference

 

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It’s safe to say that “Debt” has gotten a pretty bad rap over the years. Most people are of the impression that debt=bad. While that can be true in many cases (like in the case of credit card debt), there actually are cases where debt can be a useful tool in achieving a better life.

 

Let’s look at two different “debt scenarios” to figure this out.

1. Sam is a recent college graduate. He went to a State University near his home and earned a degree in communications. Because he did not choose a pricy private school his parents were able to pay for the majority of his educational expenses. What they were not able to pay, Sam was able to earn through Summer employment and working part-time throughout his college career, although he tried to limit how much he worked during the school year to no more than 10-15 hours a week. [Read more...]

Top Credit Cards to Avoid At All Costs

a generic blue creditcardThe best type of credit card to possess is no credit card at all.  If you have managed to stash your cash and avoid the plastic, you are on the right track to keeping your finances in check.  Unfortunately, credit cards have become a way of life for most Americans and it is all too easy to use them to purchase everyday items.  This becomes especially true when you are already in debt and feel that you have to rely on the credit card to purchase basic needs.  While getting out of credit card debt is not impossible, it can be a painful process.  The best way to get out of credit card debt is to avoid getting too far in debt in the first place.  While you may feel that a credit card is essential to your life, there are several types of credit cards to avoid at all costs.

1.  The store credit card.  While conveniently disguised as a way to “save” money on a one-time purchase, the store credit card will come back to haunt you in the end.  Most store credit cards have interests rates around 25%, which make them hard to pay off once you build up a significant amount of charges.  It also makes you feel as though you have a ”license” to shop at the store because of the store card and you will most likely end up spending money on things you cannot afford.  Store cards are also mailed to your residence after your initial purchase, which can make them hard to keep track of.  Several years ago I signed up for a store card in order to save money on a clothes purchase because I felt that the discount would be worth it and I could pay it off immediately.  Shortly after I changed residences and my mail and the memory of the card were simultaneously misplaced.  It was a few months later that I uncovered the charge and I ended up paying almost $60 more due to late fees than I would have if I had purchase the clothes outright.

2.  The “pre-approved” credit card.  While this may vary on a case-by-case basis, most pre-approved credit cards are pre-approved for a reason: high balance and high interest rates.  These cards are just waiting to catch unsuspecting consumers who will rack up a large amount of debt.  Make sure if you are going to get a credit card that you shop around for the best rates available to you instead of the one that may seem the most ”convenient”.

3.  The card that never ends…  Even carefully researched cards can come with large credit limits that can be impossible to pay off.  Make sure that you choose a card with a limit that you can reasonably pay off each month.  Debt is a destructive cycle, so restricting your spending to what you can feasibly manage is a good way to stop the problem before it starts.

HELP! I Can’t Pay My Taxes

uncle sam holding moneyThe mere mention of taxes can induce a cold sweat and the wave of panic setting in.  The jumble of paperwork, numbers, and hunting down receipts is a time-consuming process and I, for one, am not looking forward to sorting through this year’s pile.  With a limited budget, owing a significant amount to the federal government ranks high on my list of fears during tax season.  With this in mind, I set out to explore what options were available for those that can’t afford to pay what they owe.

Plan ahead and find deductions

First, it is essential to check and make sure that you have listed every possible deduction that you may qualify for.  There are several commonly missed tax deductions that individuals forget or overlook when filing.

Second, get a realistic handle on what you owe for your taxes and take a look at your budget. Are there some areas you can cut back in order to put towards taxes?  Filing in advance will help you have more time to assess the situation and start putting money away towards your payment.

Ask for an extension

If you find that you can’t come up with the sum that you owe by the due date, you can contact the IRS and ask for an extension on your payment.  Extensions typically are granted for 30-120 days, at the end of which you are expected to pay your balance in full.  This is a great option for individuals who are able to make the full payment at the end of the extension period.  Accounts that are extended are subject to penalties and interest, so be aware that you will have to account for these fees in your balance as well.

If you owe a large sum or you are not able to come up with one payment to cover your balance, you can work with the IRS to create an installment plan.  The installment plan lets you pay off the amount owed over a period of time through a series of smaller payments.  There are certain restrictions on installments depending on the amount owed, so check with an IRS representative to see what options are available to you.  Also, be aware that these balances collect interest and you will be responsible for paying those as well as the original amount.

Don’t use a credit card

If at all possible, avoid paying your taxes with your credit card.  Interest rates on credit cards can go sky high if you are not able to pay off the balance right away (let’s be honest, if you could you wouldn’t need to put it on your card).  Building up credit card debt is a sure way to derail your financial goals and pull you further in debt.  Getting a realistic handle on your taxes and addressing the issue early can help you plan and prepare and eliminate the stress associated with this season.

The 7 “Debtly” Sins… and the 7 Financial Virtues that Will Save You

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If you believe in sin – either against God, Self, a Higher Power or Humanity – then read this article to see if any of the “Debtly Sins” resonates with you. Next, save ALL your receipts for a week. After saving your receipts, set aside 30 minutes for quiet self reflection and analyze each purchase through the lens of the Seven Debtly Sins.

Regardless of your religious affiliations, the Seven Deadly Sins, as viewed through your spending decisions, have a great deal to teach about living happily and reaching your fullest potential as a human being. They may even be digging you deeper into unwanted, destructive debt.

1st Debtly Sin ==>> Pride

Pride, considered the deadliest of sins, is the desire to be perceived as more important or attractive than others. It also occurs at the unacknowledged, unrecognized and *unfounded* belief that you are better than others, making this a very tricky sin to determine on your own.

What pride-driven spending looks like:

  • Spending to “BE the Joneses,” the ones that everyone else tries to keep up with.
  • Spending that puts your WANTS before the needs of your household or your own longterm financial freedom.
  • Failure to recognize how your psychological need to be most important or most attractive drives your spending.
  • Spending – to the point of destructive debt – to acquire “flauntable” houses, cars, clothing and other lifestyle indicators.
  • Confusing self-love with self-spending.

Penance: Cultivate the Virtue of Humility

Humility is the practice of being humble – that is, modest and self-abasing. Do be cautious of taking humility too far though. Here are some ways to develop your humility, which will in turn help you change your pride-driven spending habits.

  • Compliment others for virtues and talents that surpass your own.
  • Focus on and discuss the virtues and talents of others rather than their possessions.
  • Spend less than you earn.

2nd Debtly Sin ==>> Wrath

Wrath is the harboring of anger, hatred and resentment towards others, towards institutions and towards yourself. When pointed outwards, wrath can drive people towards reckless revenge. When wrath is pointed inwards towards your self it can drive you towards self loathing and even suicide.

Here’s what wrath-driven spending looks like:

  • Making purchases to prove a point or win an argument.
  • Making purchases that result in resentment, either towards yourself or towards the recipient of those purchases.
  • Spending heavily on a rage-driven lawsuit.
  • Spending on addictions that distract you from your self-loathing.
  • Going shopping to “cool off” when you’re feeling angry.

Penance: Cultivate the Virtue of Patience
Patience is the ability to endure difficult, anger-provoking situations that show no signs of stopping. It’s also the ability to express your anger and frustration in non-destructive ways. Here are some ways to develop your patience, which should help you reduce your wrath-driven spending.

  • Decide to endure and manage your own anger, without the help of purchases.
  • Decide to endure strain and provocation rather than lash out with non-constructive anger.
  • Determine what it will take for you to forgive – yourself or others – completely and move forward.

3rd Debtly Sin ==>> Sloth

Sloth is the decision to be lazy and indifferent to your circumstances, despite having talents and gifts that could help you improve your life. Often you will find slothful people likely to complain but not to act.

Here’s what sloth-driven spending looks like:

  • Consolidating debt only to maintain spending habits.
  • Indifference to debt, and what it means to your future financial circumstances.
  • Avoiding simple tasks by consistently spending money on eating out, dry cleaning, yard work, simple repairs, etcetera.
  • Education debt incurred to avoid joining the work force.

Penance: Cultivate Diligence and Zeal
Diligence exhibits itself in your work ethic, how you budget your time and how well you self-monitor for laziness and working to the best of your abilities. You will find that increasing your diligence in one area of life will have a bountiful cascading affect on other areas. Here are some suggestions for addressing sloth (which can in turn increase your earning potential…).

  • Personally accept the responsibility for your own boredom – in all aspects of your life.
  • Continually monitor your actions to make sure you’re using your time effectively
  • Remember to relax and “recreate” too! If you’re not making time for yourself, you will “steal” this time from tasks that need your full concentration.

4th Debtly Sin ==>> Greed

Greed is the consuming desire for wealth, status and power. Pursuing wealth at the expense of the ones you love can leave you emotionally, and even financially bankrupt.

Here’s what greed-driven spending looks like:

  • Spending on any get-rich-quick schemes, books, website systems, ebooks, etcetera.
  • Investing money in things you believe will lead to wealth and status, but not investing your effort.
  • Consistently buying books about starting businesses and making money but never reading them.
  • Making guilt-driven purchases that you hope will make up for your absence from your loved-ones lives.
  • Confusing income with financial freedom; confusing financial freedom with happiness.

Penance: Cultivate Charity and Generosity
Charity and generosity exhibit themselves through the act of donating money, time or goods to people in need. For the greedy, charity work or donations will feel like “pulling teeth” at first. Here are some ways to grow your spirit of charity, and reduce your greed-driven spending.

  • Look beyond your own pursuits and contribute to something you believe in, that’s beyond yourself.
  • Reflect on what makes you genuinely happy.
  • Put non-retirement, “get-rich-quick” expenses aside for charity.

5th Debtly Sin ==>> Lust

Though the word lust is most-often associated with sex, the sin itself has a broader meaning. Lust is the excessive, destructive pursuit of the love of others, whether platonic, familial or sexual.

What lust-driven spending looks like:

  • Spending on gifts intended to buy the love of family and friends.
  • Spending on gifts intended to earn affection within a relationship.
  • Spending on items for yourself intended to earn love or acceptance of others.
  • Secret spending on “adult entertainment.”

Penance: Cultivate Chastity and Self Control
Chastity is the pursuit of mental and moral purity. This will require ongoing meditations on all forms of love, and within all of your relationships. …Especially those that involve spending money. Here are some thoughts on growing your chastity and self control.

  • Devote yourself to learning how your family and friends *receive* love – what is meaningful to them?
  • Learn how YOU receive love, and learn how to ask for it from others.
  • If you suspect you are addicted to an “adult behavior,” seek professional help immediately.

6th Debtly Sin ==>> Gluttony

Gluttony is the over-indulgence and over-consumption of ANYTHING to the point of waste. This includes any resource, from water to food to electricity.

Here’s what gluttony-driven spending looks like:

  • Any spending decision that, in hindsight, makes you feel sick with yourself.
  • Buying too much of anything and having it go to waste – food, heat, water, etcetera.
  • Spending on things that make you feel “insulated” from the world, your own anguish, or the opinions of others.

Penance: Cultivate Temperance
Control your desires. Identify areas of waste in your budget. Financial gluttony takes many forms, but it’s always fueled by a willful ignorance of wasteful behavior.

  • Restrain yourself. Decide to control yourself, know why you control yourself, and DO IT.
  • Eat leftovers, insulate your home, turn the heat down, take shorter showers
  • Mediate on your need to overindulge – is there something else you’ve been denying yourself?

7th Debtly Sin ==>> Envy

Envy is the resentful wish – spoken or unspoken – to deprive others of things you desire. It’s also described as the “sorrow for another’s good.” This same resentment of what others have can lead to destructive debt.

Here’s what envy-driven spending looks like:

  • Buying things based on what others have, regardless of quality, your personal tastes or if you can afford it.
  • Shopping binges started with feelings of anger and resentment at others for what they own.
  • Decision to NOT spend money or time on gifts for family members you resent.
  • Insatiable spending on items you resent others for having.

Penance: Cultivate Kindness
To reduce your envious behaviors, be nicer to people in your words, thoughts and deeds. Start with the people you love the most and work out from there. Here are some ways to start exercising your kindness.

  • All that resentment takes its toll on you – reconnect with yourself by doing an activity you love.
  • Volunteer your time at a charity you’re passionate about.
  • Call someone you’ve been resentful towards and ask how their day is going.
  • Call someone you love and ask how their day is going.
  • Decide to give the gift of joy to someone random, once a day.
  • Say nice things instead of buying nice things.

Others who have meditated on the connection between the seven deadly sins and personal finance: